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Gourmet Eating at the Y
by Lisa Chavez OK, if you love nuzzling your head between a woman's thighs and burying your face in the juices, the aroma, the tender pussy tips of a gourmet cunt, then you were born for cunnilingus. And you have one of the greatest assets you could possibly have: your love for the pussy.

Chances are that you and the pussy have similar likes in common.

For example:
A pussy likes to be opened, petal by petal.
A pussy likes to feel the investigation of a curious tongue.
A pussy likes a soft and wet massage.
A pussy likes to be sucked.
A pussy likes when you sip the nectar of her juices. And when you love the taste.
A pussy loves to be loved, admired, petted, fondled, and drooled over (and drooled into).

But if you're in love with the pussy, you are probably already well on your way through this list anyway.

So what are the fine points, the connoisseur's tools for giving a woman the hottest cunnilingus she'll ever know?

Well, first, the word "pussy" refers to all the moving parts of her little pink engine: Two sets of lips, the carefully tucked opening of her hole and the almighty clitoris with its 6000 nerve endings, its protective hood (like a foreskin), it's coy, hidden shaft (like a penis) and its head, a sensitive bulb like the penile head that you can expose by pulling back the hood/foreskin.

For some techniques, it helps to think of the clit as a mini-penis. This thought helps you remember that the clit is the focus of a woman's orgasm. That stroking the clit with your tongue is similar to a woman taking a cock into her mouth and riding it up and down.

The amount of pressure you bring to bear, and when, is going to depend on the woman. "Not knowing" is the expected state of anyone giving a woman cunnilingus for the first time. You are not expected to know what she likes. What drives some women wild with pleasure drives others mad with anger. So always ask: "Is this your hot spot? Where is it from here? Am I getting warmer?" Ask questions that make her feel like you're curious about her. This acknowledges that she is unique. She'll love you for it. When a guy tries to seem like he knows it all, he's actually encouraging the lady he's with to "fake it." If she's like many women, she "doesn't want to hurt his feelings."

For a woman, orgasm from oral is not about how far up her cunt you can stick your tongue. There aren't so many nerve endings up there. Again, it probably helps to think: clit equals penis.

Three final words to the wise:
Do it because it's fun.
All techniques are experimental.
No two ladies are alike in what they want.

Before any technique can ever bring her to orgasm, they all require that you go in there, enjoy the ride, and work with feedback from your partner

APPROACHING THE BEAVER.
You might want to try some preliminaries, like a mutual shower. That ensures you a squeaky clean beaver and gives you an intimate prelude.

The approach is slow. Even before touch, your words can set the mood. Tell her how much you like her pussy or how hot it looks. Start by kissing her breasts, belly, inner thighs. Get the juice flowing even before you head for the fur. Use your hands all over her body, rub her skin, play with her nipples both before and while you're eating. You want her wet and well aroused as you get to the squirmy parts, so monitor her breathing. Listen. Has the pace picked up? Is she breathing faster? -- Then you're getting her hot.

You should carry all of these approach strategies forward and continue them as you get to the main dish and start eating her out.
1) Raise your head from time to time to say how much you enjoy her (taste, reactions, smell, looks, etc).
2) Let your hands keep roving over other parts of her body.
3) Come away from the prime rib and kiss her elsewhere, especially during the tease portion of your lap session. Unless she's really close to orgasm (in which case just keep doing whatever it is you're doing) you can't go wrong by kissing her other parts from time to time.
4) Monitor her breathing.

GO TO IT. OK. First you have to get at it comfortably. Easy access means better angles. It also means you can give her clit your full attention for a longer time without getting cramped neck. Nothing worse than getting good head and suddenly the giver has to take a break.
Here are some positions you can try.
-- Let her sit on your chest with her legs on either side so her pussy cracks open and smiles right in your face.
-- Kneel at her open cunt as she sits on a chair, sofa, edge of the bed with her legs spread wide
-- Prop her lower back up so her cunt is pushed up in the air. Then you can come at it from below or above. From astraddle the lady's ribcage, your tongue is in really good position to zero in on her love button, take over her clit and besiege it without mercy. But you won't have great access to the lower parts of her box from this angle.
-- And that comfortable stand-by: sit beside her at her hips and bend over her to get at her cunt.

Experiment with these angles and positions until you find the ones that work for the woman under you.

At this point in the game, if you've been thinking of the clit as a penis, you might want take note of some definite differences, or the clit/penis connection can actually work against you:

Generally, when a guy is about to come, he wants it faster and harder. A clitoris, however, is a bit more delicate than a cock in this regard. Even the tongue is a large, formidable organ by comparison. So clits differ from cocks in that when a woman starts to get wild and thrashy, you don't go at the clit with increased frenzy, you simply keep on keeping on. Maybe a bit more pressure -- ask the lady if she needs more pressure. But otherwise, steady as she goes or more of the same, please. For a guy, this may be counter-intuitive and you almost have to fight your instincts.

Also, because the clit is so small, it's easy to find yourself drawn off course. Shift your weight to ease a stiff muscle and you could suddenly lose the hot spot it just took you five minutes to locate. Or the spot may shift on its own as the sensitivity in one area wears down and you have to move on to nearby terrain. Don't wander in the wilderness. Ask. Bring out that tried and true tactic: communication. "Is it better over here?"

NOW THAT YOU'VE GOT THAT DOWN

One technique that should accompany your entire repertoire is the slow tease.
-- Open her up first and just admire. The flowing air, the suspense, will get her wet.
-- Get up a good supply of saliva and add that to her own moisture -- on all moving parts. Rubbing without lubrication equals friction.
-- Start with tiny licks in far away places, like the fleshy parts of her outer lips. Like her inner lips. None of these have the sensitivity of the clitoris. But make her wait for that.
-- Right around the entry to her hole is another good place for a good tease. She's sensitive from there and to about an inch inside her vagina. Both those little pointed licks and a few fat laps from the flat of your tongue will work nicely into the repertoire at this point.
-- Lick all around her clit before you go at it.
-- Lick the clit slowly. Use all parts of the tongue and all pressures.
-- Vary the strokes. Slow, sloppy flat tongue. Quick, pecking tongue tip. Lick, smear, rub.
-- Bury your tongue in her hole, then slowly lap upwards to the nub of her clit. Fish around inside the clitoral hood. Tickle it and retreat back to the hole. Here you're going from stronger to weaker sensations. That is what you want. You're creating a build-up, but each time you create those stronger sensations at her clit, the intensity will be greater.

[to be continued]