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Gourmet Eating at the Y -- The Second Course
by Lisa Chavez

[The end of Part One starts the list of steps to basic cunnilingus, from opening her up to approaching the clit. We've included that list below before we go on to bring you part 2 -- which starts in the middle of the meal:]

End of Part 1:

"You'll notice one technique accompanying your entire repertoire:the slow tease.
-- Open her up first and just admire. When you first pull apart those lovely lips, the flowing air, the suspense, will get her wet.
-- Get up a good supply of saliva and add that to her own moisture -- on all moving parts. Rubbing without lubrication equals friction.
-- Start with tiny licks in far away places, like the fleshy parts of her outer lips. Like her inner lips. None of these have the sensitivity of the clitoris. But make her wait for that.
-- Right around the entry to her hole is another good place for a good tease. She's sensitive from there and to about an inch inside her vagina. Both those little pointed licks and a few fat laps from the flat of your tongue will work nicely into the repertoire at this point.
-- Lick all around her clit before you go at it.
-- Lick the clit slowly. Use all parts of the tongue and all pressures.
-- Vary the strokes. Slow, sloppy flat tongue. Quick, pecking tongue tip. Lick, smear, rub.
-- Bury your tongue in her hole, then slowly lap upwards to the nub of her clit. Fish around inside the clitoral hood. Tickle it and retreat back to the hole. Here you're going from stronger to weaker sensations (contrary to what many think, the vaginal opening is nowhere near as sensitive as the clit). That is what you want. You're creating a build-up, but each time you create those stronger sensations at her clit, the intensity will be greater."

[and now for part 2:]

-- Keep all this up, and communication, too. "Should I bear down harder? Should I lick faster?" Your best tools for ultimate cunnilingus are the questions: "Harder?" "Softer?" and "Am I getting warmer?"
-- Change it up. The very sensitive bits of a lady's vulva can get desensitized rather quickly. Too much of a good thing, too long or too fast in the same place, and she'll become numb. Again, communication is your friend. And variety (you'll find plenty of that in this list). Alternating that successful groove with the occasional surprise should help you achieve that nice slow burn without the burn out.
-- Patience. Sometimes a woman needs stimulation for a long time. It may take a long time to get her aroused. And another long time to get her off. Of course you can increase her arousal at the pre face-in-crotch stage. A woman's arousal is about 50 to 90 percent about feeling desirable and attractive. You have the power to make her feel these things. --- Once you've found a sweet spot she likes, keep at it. Though desensitization is always an issue, you can avoid this by changing pressure or intensity. Also by moving away very briefly, then returning to the sweet spot. Offer short departures for variety, for tease, for build-up. All those squeals she's giving you are the fun of anticipation. But remember to keep coming back to that sweet spot. Come back and keep it up. If it seems to take forever, but she's squealing and writhing, don't worry. You're doing it right. The only thing you have to add to the mix is: patience.
-- When she starts to come, continue what you are doing with your tongue. Her orgasm may be a long one -- longer than you expect. She'll let you know when to let up. She'll be too sensitive to let you stay there.
-- As she's coming, start to hold her, warmly. As you get to know your lady's orgasm, you'll know when you're free to explore. That's because all the pulsing, contracting, and beating of a woman's orgasm is not to be missed. Put your tongue in her hole and feel it squeeze; put your fingers along her perineum (little spot between vaginal hole and anus) and feel it beat. Once you learn the point in her orgasm's cycle where she no longer needs your stimulation, you're free to enjoy her orgasm as you will.
-- And hold her even after her orgasm is over. A tender wind-down hug is a deal cincher. And she'll remember you for it.
-- Once again: Far superior to experience and techniques, your most powerful tools for ultimate cunnilingus, are questions: "Harder?" "Softer?" and "Am I getting warmer?" Do you prefer up and down, or circles?" (Can we say this enough?)

FINESSE (MORE TECHNIQUES)

Here are some cunt stunts that will help you spice up the meal with variety:

1) The merry wag: This would be a wagging motion of your head while your tongue is stuck out stiffly. A side to side motion across her clit is exquisite. And if you apply the wag in the interests of the slow tease, you can wag your tongue further and further away from her clit (say, down to her hole, then into her hole) then slowly work your way back.

2) Deep tongue: It's not how deep you can get your tongue, it's how unpredictable you can make it. Most of the nerve endings of her vagina are around the opening anyway. So wag around the opening, then thrust in and out, then wag some more. (You'll probably need her feedback as to how hard she wants your tongue thrusting or whether she even enjoys it at all.) To add tease to this combination, pull your tongue out of her after a bit, work your tongue gradually from her hole almost to her clit, and dive back down and in. Each time, work your way closer to her clit head until you reach it, give it a couple of swipes and return back down. The variation, the suspense, may win your performance an Oscar.

3) The Flick: Try flicking your tongue along the sides of her clitoris. Did you know that one side of her clitoris is usually more sensitive than the other? Pay very close attention to her responses and you may be able to figure out which side is getting the stronger sensations. The flicks are part of a tease. When you go in for the orgasm, you'll be doing something more full-tongued and rhythmic. But the flick is also a good way to back her off if she's about to go over the edge and you don't want her to come off right away.

4) The final push: A flat tongue running up and down her clitoris, catching its tip on the clit head every now and again, is probably the way you're going to finish her off. Don't use a lot of pressure unless she tells you to or you might cause desensitization or even discomfort. As with the advanced techniques that follow, PRESSURE is everything. You'll probably be bearing down some, but you must get feedback from the owner of the pussy on how much pressure to apply and where. Some women like considerable pressure at the base of the clit, the end opposite the head. Don't play blind, like it's a game of pin the tongue on the donkey. Ask: "Is this too heavy?" "Where would you like to feel the most pressure?"

WHEN YOU SHOULDN'T
What if all that business at the beginning of this essay about loving pussy in your face doesn't sound like you? Sorry to say, you probably should not be a cunt-diver right away -- unless your woman is demanding, powerfully confident in her sexuality, and wants it bad. Since having man-mouth on her cunt is extremely intimate for a woman, (and so many women are plagued by doubts about their attractiveness), getting eaten out by a man who is squeamish about her most intimate body part could be devastating for a woman.

But if you truly want to become a cunt-diver, then start slow. Start by surreptitiously tasting her juices on the end of your fingers. Smell it often, especially when you're very aroused and ideally when you are aching to explode. Hold that come just a minute, scoop a finger full of pussy juice, lick, smell, then let loose with the taste of pussy still lingering in your mouth. Sort of the opposite of aversion therapy, this method should help you acquire the taste for your lover's cunt in no time.

The mutual shower before cunnilingus is one way to lighten the strength of the taste. So even once you've acquired a taste for pussy, your first attempt at cunnilingus should probably be preceded by a shower.

You never want to say you don't like her taste, or come up from her crotch with your nose wrinkled picking the hairs from your teeth, or running for a cloth to wash your lips off, or any similar nightmarish (for a woman) activity. One such mistake could cost you an entire future of cunnilingus with that woman.

Whatever methods you use to bring yourself to a natural enjoying (and hunger) for the taste and scent of pussy, keep up your conditioning until you can really say you love it. Make sure the conditions for your first time are favorable. And then dive in.

ADVANCED SKILLS:
-- There's a cute, pleasant technique of humming while you suck clit. It tends to turn all your contact points into a vibrator. Try humming through plastic wrap. This creates a lot of little extra vibrations, oo-la-la. These vibes could make her shiver.
-- Lick the alphabet over her clitoris. Take your wet tongue, dripping with saliva, and "draw" an "A" on the shaft of her clitoris. Next, draw the letter "B." As you continue on through the alphabet, you'll get an idea of all the shape variations you can draw with your tongue. Make a note of what letters she responds to and revisit those shapes again. Make sure to work those patterns into your growing repertoire.
-- Clasp the clit between your lips (gently) so it's trapped inside your mouth and lash it around with your tongue.
--For the jaded, the bearded and the safe: If you're with a new partner or there's any concern over STDs, eating her through a rubbery surface can still give her orgasmic waves. Try the dental dam (they come in colors and you can get them at a pharmacy). Also, any home-made square of latex will do (like a cut up condom) and so will plastic wrap (non-microwavable, about 3 layers thick). Though you are eating her through a rubbery surface, the action is the same, minus a little intensity and all of the taste. Oh, and the lubrication. Since you're not going to be adding your saliva to the mix of her juices, you'll most likely want to use a lube, a jelly, an oil, anything that's water based (read labels) because as you know, oil-based products eat latex as hungrily as you eat pussy. But latexlingus works, and it's safe. And the shielded approach is especially nice if you have a beard or stubble or that sexy shadow she loves to look at but hates to get flayed by. The dental dam is god's gift to women with facially hairy mates.

TWO-PRONGED ATTACKS. Once the lady is hot and horny, preferably humping the air in search of stimulation, you can start multiplying the stimuli by entering her various holes.

-- Whilst licking her clit, insert one or two fingers in her cunt hole. Slide up an inch or two and press your fingers towards where her clit is so that you're massaging or putting pressure on the G-spot. What you're trying to create here is sort of a G-spot/clit sandwich. This trick takes finesse, lots of experimentation, and big numeral 3: feedback from the lady. Don't expect to guess the right combination of pressure, angle, and depth on your own because her body is unique and the combinations are infinite. You should be able to feel the G-spot once you've found it. It may feel spongy, or be raised slightly, or feel a little more node-ish or rough than the rest of the tunnel. The G-spot, clit double whammy is truly an advanced technique born of communication and practice, but it can give her an explosive, intense orgasm once you get it down.
-- A little anal stimulation as you lick and suck her pussy. Try this only after she's really aroused and wet. You should be hearing her moans, or her quick breathing. Then start simply by circling her butt hole with your finger. Ask her how it feels or what she's feeling. Put pressure on her butt hole without entering. Ask for feedback. Keep your face-action going in her cunt. You kind of need to split your concentration at first, especially if she's not a butt hound. If she likes this little bit of anal action, start easing your finger ever so slowly into the hole. Stop, rest there, ease in some more. Think stealth. Like a cat, hunting. And always keeping her open by heightening the pleasure on her clit. Once your finger is in a ways, you can start adding pressure towards the anal walls. Again, push toward her vagina slightly. If you keep the pleasure in her happy box coming, your finger wrigglings in her back door should intensify her pleasure. Ask her how it feels. (Note: never use the finger you use for anal penetration in her vagina. Never, never. It's a pretty sure fire way to give her yeast infections and worse.)

One more note of warning on double entry techniques: it takes a bit more focus when you add the second stimulation (butt hole, cunt hole, nipples, etc.) to your mouth work. The pressures and speeds are probably going to be different, for example, faster on the clit, slower on the anus. The tendency is for the doer to let one stimulation fall into rhythm with the other. You'll speed up your tongue as a result of her wild screams, but then your finger in her anus also speeds up and oops?she may say something -- "easy back there." But this just gives you something to perfect as you train to become the skilled oral artist you want to be. For a majority of women, the more well-tailored the sensations you deliver, the more sensational (and addictive) your cunnilingus will be. Ahhh...there's nothing better than having a woman want it, need it, from you alone.

So get down on it.
And, happy meals to you.