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by Girlchickjayne Did I tell you I think too much? I have to warn you about it, even though they've asked me to spill more of my mental drippings here to let you know what happened after my last article.

So first I have to thank all you guys who wrote me after my last little spiel (like just for example, mcsex73 and Patsam69). One of the things I was wondering was is it a guy-thing to be able to detach your sex drive from your emotions. It was very good to hear that guys, too, have the urge to feel connected. And from the responses, I learned that guys, too, have been on the receiving end of the wham-bam lover, the cold fish who beached their emotions without ever making contact. But I also learned from guys' responses that they -- at least the guys who wrote me -- have a sort of get-your-rocks-off mode that they can run on sometimes. And when they just run on that mode, it feels very free, unencumbered. I guess it's like, just let the hormones take over and not have to "worry" about anything else. My hormones don't take over all that often.

However, I have to say that when my hormones do rage, getting off by masturbation is such a quick and easy thing, I would never dream of hassling with another person. But OK. Let's just say I were in the middle of feeling those fuck-me-blue hormones at the exact time that a willing guy crossed my path in the right time and place -- say an empty stairwell where I know no one can see us. Now things get interesting. We pass, make eye contact... well then, yeah I think I could do it -- descend on this only remotely familiar person, rip, strip, and fuck him right there in the stairwell. Maybe this approximates the lower brain moment some guys explained to me.

But for me, there's this other voice that kicks in, questions, like what if it takes him way longer to come than me and I've come off and lost interest by then? And here I am trapped in this stairwell trying to get a guy off who suddenly looks like Quasimodo, already regretting my choices, but feeling I owe the guy something for his troubles. It sounds a little cruel. I wonder, do guys have these same worries when they want to just let hormones take over? Do guys get instantly turned off to their "quickie" lady friends as soon as they come? Many guys who wrote me said that when they first hook up with a quickie chick their "other brain" is doing all the thinking. Or they said, these are the chicks they probably only want to see once, no repeaters. So do questions about "what to do after" only kick in (as one guy told me) AFTER? Me, I can never get the brain in my head the one that says, "what about after?" to go away totally.

And I wonder where other women on this site stand. Do they have these all-the-time hormone rages that let them just let go? I heard mostly from men, so I don't know.

But I did hear from a couple (Patsam69) who seem to be having a great time on the site. They also seem to have found the right balance between connection and sex. I can totally relate to this lady's comments:

"My husband and I have been together for almost 19 years now, and the sex gets better and better. I do believe, and he does also, that it has gotten better because we have grown together over the years. I do think there is a direct relationship to the "outside of sex" relationship, so to speak, and the sex relationship. I know for a fact, that when my husband changed the babies, and fed them...he was sexy as hell. When he loads the dishwasher at night...I love him more. When I see him play with the kids...my heart is so full it hurts. And I do believe when you love someone this way...it is a direct line to the genitals."

It's obvious from their profile that they have a wide-open and exciting sex life.

All these great responses just made me wonder more -- like to what degree do women have this "let the hormones take over" mode, especially on this site? I would expect the numbers to be high. I would expect lots of women with sexual hormones that make offers they can't refuse. So my question is, how many women out there let their lower brain do all the thinking for them -- do it with almost anyone, do it without emotional investment?

Popular wisdom tells us that women are more cautious than men -- but if there's one thing I'm finding out on this site, the "popular wisdom" doesn't come close to what the wide world of sexual tastes has to offer.